Come along for a truly meaningful trip full of Self-Acceptance yumminess without leaving your living room.
Friends, I think I must be mad. I’ve been thinking and thinking about this for ages, but just haven’t had the guts to kick it off.
And then shitty stuff kept happening.
Women kept reaching out to me saying they feel like their self-worth is at an all-time low.
Women are telling me that they know they deserve better than the partner whose treating them badly, but the thought of being alone or being ‘out there’ is too awful to contemplate.
This disgusting Weinstein fiasco and the #metoo campaign reminded us how every single one of us has good reason to struggle with our self-worth, because it’s so often tied up in bewildering and quite frankly terrifying circumstances where our ‘leaders’ use their power to teach us we aren’t worth anything other than what we can provide with our bodies.
The consequences for ‘not providing’ don’t bear thinking about.
Any time a woman veers off the chosen course: where she lives outside the boxes that are made to contain her, she is punished. And even within the boxes she can be punished too. There’s seemingly no acceptable way to just ‘be’.
We blame ourselves and we even blame each other when we aren’t ‘strong enough’ to speak up, speak out, speak.
What the hell is ‘strong enough’?
We are so much more likely take risks, to speak up, when we believe in our value AND we’re backed up by those around us.
Unfortunately I can’t change the second part of that sentence (though social media is doing an amazing job of working on it, as thousands of women turn up in DROVES to support one another in sharing shames that shouldn’t belong to us in the first damn place). Tune into those spaces if you need an injection of female solidarity- start with #metoo and go hunting from there.
But, perhaps, as a mental health professional, I can have a little influence on the first part. The part where we can do some things towards journeys of greater self-acceptance. Of believing just a little bit louder in our worth. In our value as human beings and not just what we can provide others.
To that end, I am embarking on a 30 Day Self-Acceptance Adventure.
That means for 30 days starting next Thursday 26th at 6pm Melbourne time I’m going to be posting DAILY and LIVE from my Facebook page little bitesize videos of lovely Self-Acceptance content for all of you.
Totally unique ideas shared from wherever I am at 6pm on the day (!) to support journeys of Self-Acceptance.
I have no desire to detract from the need to shout as loudly as possible about the problems in this world. Far from it.
I just truly believe we are far more likely to shout when we believe that the words we are saying have worth. When we feel that we have value, and we stand by one another in that.
I also know from bearing witness to others journeys, as well as my own, that it takes practice. Self-Acceptance doesn’t come easy, and while it’s important for us all to feel nervous or anxious sometimes, to check in with valued others, and to get help when we need it, doesn’t it also feel good to be able to look inside ourselves and feel calmer?
Better about who we are?
Confident in making decisions that we know are right for us (and by default right for others)?
Don’t worry if you’re not a live person, a daily person, or that time doesn’t work for you. If you’re on my list, i’ll be sending out a weekly digest of the videos, and uploading them to my Instagram account and my YouTube Channel as well.
So why do I say I think I must be mad?
Because in order for me to share this content, I have to make videos. Making videos- especially LIVE ones- is not easy for me. Is it easy for anyone? Jeez Louise, looking into that lens and trying to speak succinctly and not be able to redo it a thousand times is going to be a little scary.
But if i’m promoting self-acceptance then I need to take risks too! And I know a lot of you watch videos and are helped by having a person in front of you, not just words. In fact, a number of you letting me know that my videos have helped you has helped me decide to put this 30 days out there. Thank you for the feedback and the solidarity.
So please, do join me for the 30 Day Self Acceptance Adventure. I would love to walk beside you on such a worthy mission.
And if you need 1:1 counselling support, then please do contact me directly by filling out the contact form. We can co-create some wonderful unique outcomes for you if you’re stuck, don’t hold onto your pain alone any longer.
AS FOR THE ADVENTURE: I hope to see you ‘down the lens’ in 1 week. Exactly. To the hour. 6pm Thursday 26th. On my Facebook page.
Love Nicole OXXOOO
Ps: If you have anything you’d like me to make a video or write a blog post about, I’d be happy to hear from you. Just jump onto my contact page and send me a message.