Ableism is to disabled people what racism is to people of colour or sexism is to women. It’s all the ways able-bodied neurotypical people discriminate against, harm and prevent disabled or neurodiverse people from participating in society. Ableism is naming structural inequality. Talking about all the ways we are ableist isn’t about pointing the finger… Continue Reading
Nine ways to help when someone you love loses someone they love
One of life’s most challenging situations is being needed when someone you love loses someone they love. The truth is many of us don’t know how to help someone grieving. We don’t realise it, but that extreme discomfort we feel when another human falls apart due to grief right in front of us, is not… Continue Reading
Why You Can’t Make Your Partner Feel Better by Explaining
Or: why won’t my partner listen to me? Who has ended up in a fight with their partner (sometimes the same fight for years) when simply trying to explain to them why you did (or didn’t) do something? They’re telling you they were hurt or frustrated or sad or felt alone, and you want to… Continue Reading
The Myth of Balance
‘You can have it all’ they said! And we believed them. Even though we pretend to know better these days we are still easily captured by this narrative. It’s a trap. Women in particular are plagued by the ‘how can I find balance?’ question. But why is it a problem? Isn’t ‘balance’ a good thing?… Continue Reading
Intergenerational Trauma, Privilege and Racism: Understanding BLM and Shifting our Beliefs around How the World Works
Written on Gumbaynggirr country in Garlambila. As a non-indigenous woman I acknowledge the traditional custodians of this land and pay my respect to Elders past, present and future and extend that respect to all First Nations people. Have you travelled overseas and had a sudden deeply felt realisation you could live in that country forever… Continue Reading
Do I Really Know My Partner Better Than They Know Themselves?
Many of us believe we know our partners better than they know themselves. And in some ways that is true. We can predict how someone we know well might behave in the familiar routines of life. The mistake is when we assume that behaviour = thinking. When it comes to our partners we often get… Continue Reading
