‘You can have it all’ they said! And we believed them. Even though we pretend to know better these days we are still easily captured by this narrative. It’s a trap. Women in particular are plagued by the ‘how can I find balance?’ question. But why is it a problem? Isn’t ‘balance’ a good thing?… Continue Reading
Intergenerational Trauma, Privilege and Racism: Understanding BLM and Shifting our Beliefs around How the World Works
Written on Gumbaynggirr country in Garlambila. As a non-indigenous woman I acknowledge the traditional custodians of this land and pay my respect to Elders past, present and future and extend that respect to all First Nations people. Have you travelled overseas and had a sudden deeply felt realisation you could live in that country forever… Continue Reading
Do I Really Know My Partner Better Than They Know Themselves?
Many of us believe we know our partners better than they know themselves. And in some ways that is true. We can predict how someone we know well might behave in the familiar routines of life. The mistake is when we assume that behaviour = thinking. When it comes to our partners we often get… Continue Reading
Letting Go
Letting Go. It’s a phrase we use often. Usually in reference to an idea or a plan we had that we’re struggling to ‘move on’ from when it doesn’t happen. Oh! There’s another one: ‘Moving On’. But why do so many of us struggle in the ‘Letting Go’ and the ‘Moving On’? We assume they… Continue Reading
Why Do I Cry For No Reason?
Someone recently told me they hate crying in counselling sessions. I was kinda surprised by this. Yes- my clients have apologised for crying, and i’m quick to reassure them that it’s ok- but this time I stopped to think about how this ‘hate crying’ feeling might really impact someone while they’re trying to tell their… Continue Reading
How do you do your guru?
Many years ago I was faffing around in the dating universe, online and offline and everywhere. There were several relationships gone by the wayside, and I just couldn’t get the hang of ‘being out there’. Where were the expert tips I needed? Then I read ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. It held many epiphanies…. Continue Reading
