Many of us believe we know our partners better than they know themselves. And in some ways that is true. We can predict how someone we know well might behave in the familiar routines of life. The mistake is when we assume that behaviour = thinking. When it comes to our partners we often get… Continue Reading
How do you do your guru?
Many years ago I was faffing around in the dating universe, online and offline and everywhere. There were several relationships gone by the wayside, and I just couldn’t get the hang of ‘being out there’. Where were the expert tips I needed? Then I read ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. It held many epiphanies…. Continue Reading
Una Paloma Blanca
When you are rebuilding your life, sometimes help comes from the most surprising of places. Una paloma blanca I’m just a bird in the sky Una paloma blanca Over the mountain I fly No one can take my freedom away Chandni* was at a crucial time in our work together. She’d been rebuilding herself and… Continue Reading
[VIDEO] Buggering Off the Not-Good-Enoughs
The Not Good Enough Feeling keeps women staying in shit jobs, toxic relationships, prevents us moving on from a messy separation, and makes us second-guess ourselves constantly. How frustrating and painful are the Not-Good-Enoughs? Here’s a major tip for paying attention to the feeling so as not to get pulled down into the ‘I suck’… Continue Reading
Interrogating Invasive Problems: 43 short questions to make a (life)long impact
Get your journals out, or open a fresh word document, or call a dear friend who you can get stuck into a meaningful conversation with. Below I’m sharing 43 ‘short’ questions that can have a ‘long’ and lasting impact on invasive problems. What are invasive problems? They’re the type that won’t go away, that seem… Continue Reading
Resigning from Christmas: 10 ways to tell everyone to stuff it and enjoy yourself for a change
You’re over-planning and getting worked up before it’s even here. Completely resigning from Christmas feels like the only option at this point. Go on. Admit it. You’ll feel better. I see more stressed-out people at this time of year than any other, no matter what their relationship, friend or family status. Which is sad, when… Continue Reading
