Face your butterflies (not just your fears) We all know what facing our fears means. It’s something many of us struggle with, but it’s not an unfamiliar concept. Facing our fears means grappling with the hard stuff. Feelings that cause us pain, terror, and grief. The purpose of facing our fears is to stop letting… Continue Reading
Why You Can’t Make Your Partner Feel Better by Explaining
Why won’t my partner listen to me? Who has ended up in a fight with their partner when simply trying to explain to them why you did (or didn’t) do something? They’re telling you they were hurt or frustrated or sad or felt alone, and you want to make them feel better by letting them… Continue Reading
Do I Really Know My Partner Better Than They Know Themselves?
Many of us believe we know our partners better than they know themselves. And in some ways that is true. We can predict how someone we know well might behave in the familiar routines of life. The mistake is when we assume that behaviour = thinking. When it comes to our partners we often get… Continue Reading
How Do You Do Your Guru?
Many years ago I was faffing around in the dating universe, online and offline and everywhere. There were several relationships gone by the wayside, and I just couldn’t get the hang of ‘being out there’. Where were the expert tips I needed? Then I read ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. It held many epiphanies…. Continue Reading
Una Paloma Blanca
When you are rebuilding your life, sometimes help comes from the most surprising of places. Una paloma blanca I’m just a bird in the sky Una paloma blanca Over the mountain I fly No one can take my freedom away Chandni* was at a crucial time in our work together. She’d been rebuilding herself and… Continue Reading
[VIDEO] Buggering Off the Not-Good-Enoughs
The Not Good Enough Feeling keeps women staying in shit jobs, toxic relationships, prevents us moving on from a messy separation, and makes us second-guess ourselves constantly. How frustrating and painful are the Not-Good-Enoughs? Here’s a major tip for paying attention to the feeling so as not to get pulled down into the ‘I suck’… Continue Reading
