The Unplanned Silence: A Three-Week Experiment in Presence. As an online life coach, relationship coach and counsellor, I often discuss technostress with my clients. But to accidentally find myself in a digital detox really showed me how hard it is to address it. We frequently theorise about how to reclaim mental bandwidth without a phone,… Continue Reading
You’re Not “Too Nice.” You’ve Just Been Over-Attuned to Everyone Else
How to Stop People-Pleasing and Build Self-Worth That Isn’t Fake. Let me start here: being exquisitely attuned to other people’s moods, needs, micro-expressions, and unspoken tensions is not a flaw. It is extraordinary. To feel that much. To register the slight shift in tone. To sense when someone is off before they do. To care…. Continue Reading
Effective Couples Communication Exercises Using Narrative Therapy
Effective Couples Communication Exercises Using Narrative Therapy Couples communication exercises are a dime-a-dozen. So let’s start off with something a little different: asking what it is we’re actually trying to fix. After all, good communication is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. Or is it? Narrative therapy is all about deconstructing socially accepted norms. So… Continue Reading
Face Your Butterflies
Face your butterflies (not just your fears) We all know what facing our fears means. It’s something many of us struggle with, but it’s not an unfamiliar concept. Facing our fears means grappling with the hard stuff. Feelings that cause us pain, terror, and grief. The purpose of facing our fears is to stop letting… Continue Reading
Why You Can’t Make Your Partner Feel Better by Explaining
Why won’t my partner listen to me? Are you over-explaining in a relationship? Who has ended up in a fight with their partner when simply trying to explain to them why you did (or didn’t) do something? They’re telling you they were hurt or frustrated or sad or felt alone, and you want to make… Continue Reading
Do I Really Know My Partner Better Than They Know Themselves?
Do I really know my partner better than they know themselves? Many of us believe we know our partners better than they know themselves. And in some ways that is true. We can predict how someone we know well might behave in the familiar routines of life. The mistake we make is assuming that by… Continue Reading
