Earlier this year I had a conversation that keeps replaying in my mind, with a woman who leads a Government department researching some of the toughest institutional problems you can imagine. She told me she was looking for signs of stress, burnout, or vicarious trauma in her staff: Exhaustion, avoidance, and ‘checking out’. Basically the… Continue Reading
My Boss Is Destroying Me… But I Can’t Leave (Yet)
How to survive a toxic boss without quitting Let me tell you a story about a woman I’ll call M. She’d worked her way up in her role over five years—loyal, self-directed, good at mentoring junior staff even when it wasn’t in her job description. Her boss? A master of plausible deniability. Think public praise,… Continue Reading
How To Let Go Of The Past By Hanging On
How to let go of the past by hanging on How to let go of the past? Just… let it go. It’s a phrase we use often. Usually in reference to an idea or a plan we had that we’re struggling to ‘move on’ from when it doesn’t happen. Oh! There’s another popular phrase: ‘Moving… Continue Reading
VIDEO: Why is separation so painful?
We ALL know separation is one of the most painful experiences you can go through in this life and this stuff of ‘being human’. But sometimes we don’t understand how badly it hurts until we’re IN it. Breakups are physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. Divorce is a relentless battle with someone else, yourself AND the state… Continue Reading
VIDEO: Escaping a Personal Failure Story
Some thoughts to ponder and questions to ask yourself on the subject of escaping the big loud echoing voice that tells you ‘I’m a Failure’. A failure by whose standards?… If you have some tips on getting out from under a shitty self narrative, or how you got away from society’s views of what makes… Continue Reading
What Does ‘Borderline Personality Disorder’ feel like?
Have you ever wondered if you or someone you love has Borderline Personality Disorder? This article explores what it really feels like from someone with lived experience. I’m wary of diagnosis. Not because it’s not useful to understand more about what’s going on with you when things really aren’t right, but because often diagnoses are:… Continue Reading
