Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette is a game-changer. But I was almost a full half hour in and not quite sure why so many clients, friends and colleagues had gotten in touch: “You need to see Hannah Gadsby’s stand-up comedy special Nanette on Netflix. It’s [insert chosen magnificent superlative]”. I mean, it was good. It wasn’t hilarious…. Continue Reading
Resigning from Christmas: 10 ways to tell everyone to stuff it and enjoy yourself for a change
You’re over-planning and getting worked up before it’s even here. Completely resigning from Christmas feels like the only option at this point. Go on. Admit it. You’ll feel better. I see more stressed-out people at this time of year than any other, no matter what their relationship, friend or family status. Which is sad, when… Continue Reading
Your Vagina Can’t Cure Cancer
You can’t fix an abuser. Over the years that I have travelled alongside and helped women who have been subjected to some form of abuse in relationships, I have heard the same thing from almost all of them: “I thought if I loved him enough he would heal and then he would change”. It’s beautiful;… Continue Reading
How our favourite fairy tales expose the secret tactics of abusive behaviour
*Guest post* Tangled happens to be both my favourite Disney princess movie, and my favourite interpretation of the fairy tale of Rapunzel. In this story, Mother Gothel raises Rapunzel in a tower, elevated and far away from the rest of the world. Mother Gothel tells Rapunzel that she is keeping her in the tower in order… Continue Reading
6 honest articles about being single you need to read
Why can’t we just feel what we feel? If you say ‘I’m sick of being single’ you’ll get a barrage of well-meaning advice about ‘getting out there’. Or even worse, the ‘I Pity You’ look from a smug partnered, even though they’ve just spent your entire visit wiping snot from a screaming toddlers endlessly dripping… Continue Reading
The best self-care is not ‘self’ oriented at all
Aren’t you sick of people missing the point? A really good idea: remembering to engage in acts of self-care- caring for yourself- to live a more fulfilled and enriched life gets taken, messed with, twisted and then somehow becomes yet another way to be a failure in society. As in, if you aren’t happy, if… Continue Reading
