Making new friends as an adult can be really tough. You have more of a sense of what your values are, the things you like doing, and what deeply matters to you. You’re busy, you don’t suffer fools lightly, and you want something more than ‘I like green, you like green. Let’s be best friends!!!’… Continue Reading
Resigning from Christmas: 10 ways to tell everyone to stuff it and enjoy yourself for a change
You’re over-planning and getting worked up before it’s even here. Completely resigning from Christmas feels like the only option at this point. Go on. Admit it. You’ll feel better. I see more stressed-out people at this time of year than any other, no matter what their relationship, friend or family status. Which is sad, when… Continue Reading
Why do we have such a big problem with childfree women?
Childfree women Sometimes not doing something can be even more scandalous than doing something. (And speaking as someone who has done a number of scandalous things in her life, the response to this particular ‘not doing’ has been the most shocking, and caused me the most bewildering amount of sadness. Perhaps other childfree women can… Continue Reading
4 Creative Ways to Use the Internet as Self Care
Full disclosure: I’m a 100% online counsellor and a fierce believer in the power of my friend The Internet, as a potential provider of support and self care for everyone. There have been a number of articles recently questioning whether or not therapy ‘works’ online, and it’s got to be said: they’re pretty dismal and… Continue Reading
The best self-care is not ‘self’ oriented at all
Aren’t you sick of people missing the point? A really good idea: remembering to engage in acts of self-care- caring for yourself- to live a more fulfilled and enriched life gets taken, messed with, twisted and then somehow becomes yet another way to be a failure in society. As in, if you aren’t happy, if… Continue Reading
Children vs Childfree Friendship: How To Talk When Everything Changes
As I get older, I notice a growing space between those of us without kids and those of us with them. I find myself drawn to commentary written by childfree* adults, and curious about experiences of other childfree people as I move closer to 40 years old. Childfree friendship feels more important. I also see… Continue Reading
