Borderline Personality Disorder: what it really feels like from the voice of lived experience… I’m wary of diagnosis. Not because it’s not useful to understand more about what’s going on with you when things really aren’t right, but because often diagnoses are: Wrong Pathologising Used by professionals to make decisions about a person’s behaviour rather… Continue Reading
VIDEO: How I’m using Shrill to love my curvy PCOS body, and you can too.
This video outlines a specific tip Lindy West shares in her book Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman about how to love your body. As a counsellor working with women, body image comes up as a regular source of pain. It’s almost impossible to ignore the messages we are sent constantly- straight or queer or… Continue Reading
Instant Messenger online counselling: 3 ways you haven’t considered that it can work for you
I know most of you guys are skeptical about Instant Messenger Counselling. Understandably it can be difficult to imagine how you can form a genuine therapeutic relationship without talking… without sharing a physical space… without being able to look at someone’s facial expressions. Over the time I have been doing online counselling via Video, Talking,… Continue Reading
Video: How can Narrative Therapy help you?
Ella, my favourite cuddle companion, agrees that Narrative approaches are really helpful for facing life’s hardest moments. Are you looking for a counsellor (or perhaps could use a travelling companion through one of life’s challenges even though you weren’t actually looking)? Do you like the sound of Narrative Therapy? Then you can contact me directly here…. Continue Reading
“No Hands Required”: A true story of emotional abuse
*Guest post* No Hands Required ‘That Look’ I know that look. It’s the jealous look. Dark brown eyes, filled with rage, glaring at me as if they are about to pierce me with a knife. It makes my heart pound, my chest tighten, and it feels like a huge cement slab is slowly crushing my… Continue Reading
How To Recover From A Bad Breakup
Breakup recovery SOS needed! Separation is horrendous. Even though we ‘know’ almost everyone on the planet has suffered and survived the end of at least one significant relationship, we can’t help but feel that no one else knows what it’s truly like for us ‘right now’. It’s isolating. Terrifying. Darkness looms in daily, overshadowing any… Continue Reading
