‘You can have it all’ they said! And we believed them. Even though we pretend to know better these days we are still easily captured by this narrative. It’s a trap. Women in particular are plagued by the ‘how can I find balance?’ question. But why is it a problem? Isn’t ‘balance’ a good thing?… Continue Reading
Letting Go
(OR ‘what exactly are you Letting Go of my love and would you prefer to Hang On?’) Letting Go. It’s a phrase we use often. Usually in reference to an idea or a plan we had that we’re struggling to ‘move on’ from when it doesn’t happen. Oh! There’s another one: ‘Moving On’. But why… Continue Reading
Help! I’ve Lost My Identity: 6 Ways To Rediscover Yourself And Get Off The Nostalgia Train
Have you got a case of a lost identity? Bianca* contacted me because she didn’t know who she was anymore: ‘I’ve lost my identity. My sense of self. I feel completely confused and exhausted. I try to take up hobbies but I just can’t find my ‘thing’. My life has become so wrapped up in… Continue Reading
The Wand I Didn’t Get
This is a guest post that I wrote for Tiny Buddha, which was originally published here under the title ‘Life Is Better When We Focus on What We Appreciate, Not What’s Lacking’. It’s about appreciating what is rather than fuming about what is not. I am republishing with permission from tinybuddha.com. Recently a friend told me a… Continue Reading
Resigning from Christmas: 10 ways to tell everyone to stuff it and enjoy yourself for a change
You’re over-planning and getting worked up before it’s even here. Completely resigning from Christmas feels like the only option at this point. Go on. Admit it. You’ll feel better. I see more stressed-out people at this time of year than any other, no matter what their relationship, friend or family status. Which is sad, when… Continue Reading
Your Vagina Can’t Cure Cancer
You can’t fix an abuser. Over the years that I have travelled alongside and helped women who have been subjected to some form of abuse in relationships, I have heard the same thing from almost all of them: “I thought if I loved him enough he would heal and then he would change”. But you… Continue Reading
