Face your butterflies (not just your fears) We all know what facing our fears means. It’s something many of us struggle with, but it’s not an unfamiliar concept. Facing our fears means grappling with the hard stuff. Feelings that cause us pain, terror, and grief. The purpose of facing our fears is to stop letting… Continue Reading
How Do You Do Your Guru?
Many years ago I was faffing around in the dating universe, online and offline and everywhere. There were several relationships gone by the wayside, and I just couldn’t get the hang of ‘being out there’. Where were the expert tips I needed? Then I read ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. It held many epiphanies…. Continue Reading
Help! I’ve Lost My Identity: 6 Ways To Rediscover Yourself And Get Off The Nostalgia Train
Have you got a case of a lost identity? Bianca* contacted me because she didn’t know who she was anymore: ‘I’ve lost my identity. My sense of self. I feel completely confused and exhausted. I try to take up hobbies but I just can’t find my ‘thing’. My life has become so wrapped up in… Continue Reading
Finding Love from a place of Self-Love: 16 hot tips for uncovering a true connection within the dating minefield
Finding love from a place of self-love is about meeting a person you REALLY want (and who truly deserves to be) in your life. ‘Just be yourself’ says everyone, but in reality it’s far more complex than that. Dating can mess with even the most self-confident person. It’s a minefield of weird behaviours, rejection, unfamiliar… Continue Reading
The Wand I Didn’t Get
This is a guest post that I wrote for Tiny Buddha, which was originally published here under the title ‘Life Is Better When We Focus on What We Appreciate, Not What’s Lacking’. It’s about appreciating what is rather than fuming about what is not. I am republishing with permission from tinybuddha.com. Recently a friend told me a… Continue Reading
Making new friends as an adult: digging deeper than shared activities
Making new friends as an adult can be really tough. You have more of a sense of what your values are, the things you like doing, and what deeply matters to you. You’re busy, you don’t suffer fools lightly, and you want something more than ‘I like green, you like green. Let’s be best friends!!!’… Continue Reading
