‘You can have it all’ they said! And we believed them. Even though we pretend to know better these days we are still easily captured by this narrative. It’s a trap. Women in particular are plagued by the ‘how can I find balance?’ question. But why is it a problem? Isn’t ‘balance’ a good thing?… Continue Reading
Sex Resources For Beginners To Experts (ethical sex is so hot right now)
With so much sex information and advice out there, it can be a real anxiety-provoking hunt to find something that’s right for you. In particular if you: Are new to the journey of discovering yourself or others sexually Don’t fit into mainstream moulds or images of sexual identity Have survived sexual violence or a traumatic… Continue Reading
Una Paloma Blanca
When you are rebuilding your life, sometimes help comes from the most surprising of places. Una paloma blanca I’m just a bird in the sky Una paloma blanca Over the mountain I fly No one can take my freedom away Chandni* was at a crucial time in our work together. She’d been rebuilding herself and… Continue Reading
Breaking up with Diane (Brenda, Yasmin and Estelle)
Diane Depression “Well, it looks like you have a hormonal imbalance” The family doctor was sitting across from my mother and me. I was aged 18 with a very sudden face full of acne, some weird facial hair, and a 15kg weight gain. We were going through the results of a series of tests about… Continue Reading
[VIDEO] Buggering Off the Not-Good-Enoughs
The Not Good Enough Feeling keeps women staying in shit jobs, toxic relationships, prevents us moving on from a messy separation, and makes us second-guess ourselves constantly. How frustrating and painful are the Not-Good-Enoughs? Here’s a major tip for paying attention to the feeling so as not to get pulled down into the ‘I suck’… Continue Reading
Why Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette is so Important
Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette is a game-changer. But I was almost a full half hour in and not quite sure why so many clients, friends and colleagues had gotten in touch: “You need to see Hannah Gadsby’s stand-up comedy special Nanette on Netflix. It’s [insert chosen magnificent superlative]”. I mean, it was good. It wasn’t hilarious…. Continue Reading
