Relationships can be hard at times. In the beginning we think our relationship will be different and that love is always enough. It’s hard to imagine the roadblocks we might encounter. I’m now offering online couples counselling to help name, address and move those roadblocks to one side.
Knowing that your relationship is in trouble is one of the worst feelings. You feel stuck, worried, angry, hurt and sick to your stomach. The feeling keeps many folks from coming to counselling, but desperately looking for advice. There’s A LOT of advice out there for people struggling in their romantic relationships. And much of it is great.
But what’s the point if you can’t apply it, together, to your particular circumstances?
Narrative therapy is interested in YOUR understandings and definitions of the problems invading the happiness of your relationship.
I don’t have magic formulas and I don’t dish out lots of homework (although there may be practices to encourage!). What I do have is relentless curiosity about your romantic relationship and individuals in it. Every relationship has problems despite how ideal others look from the outside. We are all subject to the pressure of social norms yet we hardly ever talk about it.
I want to get underneath the day to day fighting or listlessness and help you get back to your connection. In fact, it is likely we will create a stronger ‘in the room’ connection for you take home with you.
We (ya’ll and me) work to notice themes… patterns… that emerge when times are troubled as well as when they are going well. And we deal with the big stuff- like infidelity- without assumptions or judgments.
That doesn’t mean we brush off behaviours that hurt someone! It means we intend, together, to get you unstuck from ugly cycles and move towards better choices that maximise loving kindness.
Love starts as a feeling, but to continue is a choice. And I find myself choosing you, more and more every day.Justin Wetch
Something to consider before coming to online couples counselling is if you truly plan to work on YOURSELF. Relationship therapy is most effective when everyone involved really shows up and prioritises the relationship. Where no one feels silenced but can be respectful to their partner even while being deeply honest.
If you feel willing to turn towards your partner and then look outward at the problems (with help from me!) then you are ready. You see, it’s a pretty big commitment.
Very rarely is one session enough, and you may need or want 1:1 sessions as part of the couples work. But it could very well be the most important time and money you’ve ever invested.
Even if the result isn’t what you’d hoped for, it is possible to end a relationship with both people in good shape. Stop the hurt, bitterness and resentment. Grow.
Don’t wait until it’s too late. Reach out while there’s enough love, hope and kindness there to find your way to something wonderful.
All you need is:
- An internet connection (I don’t offer relationship counselling on the phone)
- The ability to sit next to one another in view of the computer screen
- A willingness to get real about this relationship
There are some things that can’t be ‘worked through’ in online couples counselling. Namely any kind of violence or abuse. If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship, please reach out and don’t be afraid to name your concerns. I can help you better if I know about your safety (that includes emotional safety).
Get in touch now to ask me any questions. Oh, and if you’re not into online couples counselling, I may be able to see you in-person. I have a clinic space in Coffs Harbour or at your home across the Bellingen Shire.
There are lots of possibilities for you to have more satisfying and loving relationships.