Online Relationship Coaching (That Gets to the Point)
With 20 years in the field, I help couples (and dating singles) move beyond the narratives holding you back and into the love-life you really want. You can book a free 15 minute discovery call here to see if we’re a match. You can also email me directly if you need a different time or prefer writing.
You’re tired of feeling misunderstood and disconnected.
You’ve read the books, but when it comes to putting great ideas into practice things fall over. One person feels misunderstood. The other feels like they can’t get it right. The little things start wars. The big things get buried. You’ve tried active listening, gentle communication and being more assertive, yet the same frustrations keep cropping up. Why can’t we get it right?
What if the problem isn’t what you think it is? What if it’s something you can outwit and outmanoeuvre? If only you had a secret compass that points toward who you actually are and your best intentions, rather than the person the struggle has been narrating.
I’m Nicole Hind. I’m an Australian Narrative Therapist and Online Relationship Coach with 20 years experience. I work with people all over the world who are great at what they do but feel “stuck” in personal and relational narratives.
My approach is different: We don’t just process feelings. I use a curated toolkit of narrative techniques and strategies gathered from two decades in the field and a Masters in Narrative Therapy to help you externalise, rename, and change the unhelpful patterns invading your relational life. I also use a huge range of self-assessment tools and practices that I select from depending on what you need.
If you’re a couple, we stop you from facing off against each other so you can start facing the problem (and life) as a team. If you’re single and dating, we figure out your key barriers to finding love and dismantle them so they have less power over you.
The Scenarios: Does your relationship feel like a negotiation table?
Many couples and singles come to me when they’ve been talking in circles for awhile. They’ve almost given up on change being possible. We tackle the specific, high-stakes narratives that keep you stuck in a loop:
- The Reactionary Loop: Breaking the habit of being snappy or dismissive and reclaiming the partner you actually want to be. Learning how to be kind while also being true to yourself.
- The Translation Gap: Moving beyond “hot takes” to express and understand the real intentions buried under the frustration. Stop feeling misunderstood or getting ‘shut down’ when trying to communicate needs.
- The Juggling Trap: You’re good people and great parents/professionals, but the “business of life” has crowded out the relationship. Figuring out how to be lovers again and stop just being co-administrators.
- The Vulnerability Wall: Learning to ask for what you actually need. Being able to hear honest answers without defensiveness getting in the way. Addressing mismatched needs regarding libido, touch, romance, or deep conversation that have turned into a story of rejection versus pressure.
- The ‘Big Crossroads’: Decisions about children vs. childfree, buying a house, , opening up, moving countries, or choosing a “nomadic” lifestyle.
- The Identity Shift: Navigating such inevitable shifts as getting older and wanting different things, perimenopause and career pivots that changes the “deal” you originally made. Managing family/cultural expectations that don’t ‘match’ and reaching agreements on what is fair and reasonable.
- The Chore War: Moving from “Manager and Employee” back to lovers and partners.
Choose Your Container
To get results in 3 to 6 sessions, we need to go ‘Full Immersion’. It can feel like a lot to take on and it’s ok to be nervous. As long as you’re 100% committed to the process, we can make significant tracks.
Both packages are built around bi-weekly 90-minute deep dive sessions + homework. We don’t do “text check-ins”; we do the heavy lifting required to restore your agency.
- Note that it’s also an option to do individual coaching sessions without a package. See my counselling services for structural information and fees, or just reach out to ask more.
Option 1: The Surgical Fix (3 Sessions)
A honed-in “pattern interrupt” for one specific roadblock.
Best for: Couples stuck in a specific behavioural loop like the “Snapping Reflex,” the “Chore War,” or a recurring family boundary problem. Singles stuck in a repetitive and identifiable pattern when it comes to dating like “Clinginess” “Losing Myself’ or “Seeing Red Flags but Ignoring Them”.
The Work: Together we name the specific pattern (e.g. “The Invisible Labour Trap” or “Putting Up With Situationships”), map its tactics, introduce some new practices at home, and create a shared “Team Protocol” to outwit it.
Investment: $565 USD ($860 AUD)
Option 2: The Narrative Radical Reset (6 Sessions)
For the “Big Crossroads”, identity shifts, and total landscape changes.
Best for: Unchosen life transitions (such as ageing, loss of a loved one, divorce and perimenopause), big topics (like moving, studying, buying a house and the kids/no-kids discussion), or the feeling that you’ve “lost yourself” and you’re totally stuck in a rut. Also for folks suffering from pain and fear leftover from a bad breakup (even if it was a long time ago).
The Work: We explore what makes relationships successful in your experience, what your hopes and dreams are for this one, and uncover why you can’t ‘get there’ at the moment. We deconstruct the “shoulds” and cultural scripts. You’ll put some new ideas and practices into place at home. Using tools such as the Tree of Life, we map your values, unsung skills and goals so we can co-author a Relationship Manifesto that prioritises connection, kindness, autonomy, respect, desire, self-worth, and mutual support.
Investment: $1,100 USD ($1,675 AUD)
Why this works
- Genuine No-Judgement: As I mentioned, I’ve been around for awhile and there’s not much I haven’t heard. What I’ve learned is that the more closely you live to YOUR values, the more content you’ll be. That might look like a long-term monogamous marriage with 2 kids, salaried jobs, a mortgage and strong cultural/familial connections. But it might also look like childfree living, digital nomadism, non-monogamy, or creating your own personal/family culture. There are countless pictures of how our relational lives can look. Sometimes the hardest part is finding someone who gets us and figuring out how to blend dreams together. I ensure that we engage in genuine exploration, and aren’t pushing a traditional “family values” agenda or upholding gendered expectations. While I work with many folks across the spectrum of life, I’ve been given especially positive feedback by LGBTIQ, neurodiverse and cross-cultural couples and individuals.
- The “Decoder Ring”: My 20 years of experience becomes your translator, helping you hear things in your relationship that you’ve been deaf to for years. In fact, my role as ‘translator’ has been a key point of positive feedback from many couples who felt they could actually get to the true feelings and intentions underneath words that just weren’t landing.
- Strategic Focus: It makes sense that “who does the dishes” takes 3 sessions, while “reclaiming your identity” takes 6. The free 15 minute discovery session will help make this clearer. You can see exactly which container your problems fall into and feel confident that you’ll get somewhere this time because we’re being so specific.
- High-Impact Boundaries: To ensure focus and dignity, our work is contained within our 1.5-hour fortnightly sessions and curated email homework. I don’t do “on-call” messaging; I do deep work that sticks.
Ready to outwit your relationship problem stories?
Let’s move your love life beyond “ok-ish” and into something… kinda beautiful.
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- Note that it’s also an option to do individual coaching sessions without a package. See my counselling offering for structural information and fees. Or just reach out to ask more.
***Please note: This isn’t the place for you if you are in crisis, have deep trauma from abuse or violence (either solo or together), or 15+ years of resentment. Online relationship coaching is for folks who are in an ok-ish place but are stuck in negative patterns.
Looking for something a little different to online relationship coaching (that gets to the point)?
If you’re dealing with a toxic workplace situation or career crisis, online life coaching (for when you’re stuck in life) is here for you. And I also offer online counselling if that’s more suitable (excl. USA & Canada). Plus there are loads of free resources available over on my blog.
Want to get a feel for working with me? My book ‘Bolder’ is now on sale!
‘Bolder’ is a narrative-therapy informed self-worth journey. It’s a 10 ‘session’ deep dive into your problems and how to solve them by reconnecting with your values, deconstructing toxic societal norms, and having some fun doing brave confidence-building practices. Based on my popular online course ‘From Bashful to Bold’. Available on Kindle and all other ebook retailers.
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*DISCLAIMER: While I believe in the power of love, some things just can’t be worked through – like abuse of any kind and violence. Couples counselling or relationship coaching can become another tool of control, so it’s not the right choice if that kind of behaviour is going on. If you suspect you’re in an abusive relationship, you can anonymously contact 1800RESPECT.